I’m so tired of people making me feel special & then breaking my heart.
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Be A Daddy First
Being a Daddy without a little can be hard, especially when you’re just coming out of a relationship or if you haven’t been in a relationship for a while and you’re lonely. It can be very tempting to just start blindly reaching out to every little you encounter, but this will only make you look desperate and creepy to many littles. Loneliness is a powerful force, but it can be a terrible reason to enter into this particular lifestyle. So, what’s a Daddy to do?
First and foremost, even without having a little of your own, be a Daddy. How can someone be a Daddy without a little, you ask? Being a Daddy isn’t something that magically happens because you have a little, being a Daddy is something that you are. Littles don’t stop being littles when they are without a Daddy, and neither do Daddies stop being Daddies when they are without a little. Being a Daddy is a state of mind, a manner of conducting yourself, and a way of life. Having a little gives you the chance to be her Daddy, but it does not make you a Daddy. That part, that essence, comes from within.
How should a Daddy act when he hasn’t got a little? The same way he should act in public and around other littles who are not his littles. A Daddy should be a gentleman - not rude, crude, or boorish. He should be friendly without being overly familiar with new people, especially littles. He should command respect with his bearing and demeanor, not demand it with his words like an impetuous, petulant teenager. If you carry yourself properly, you do not have to ask for or demand respect from most people; they will recognize the need to give you respect merely from your presence.
You don’t always have to walk around in a suit and tie to be a Daddy. Many Daddies are construction workers or laborers or hold other blue collar jobs. If you are just getting off work, there’s no shame in having dirt on you. The mud and dirt and grime of a working man are like badges of honor. That being said, if you know you’re going out in public, especially in the company of a little, and you have the time to clean up, you should absolutely do so. A Daddy should take pride in his appearance. You may not be a model, but you can always be presentable.
When speaking, a Daddy should always be respectful, especially when talking to littles that aren’t his littles. You can’t expect littles to listen to you, take orders from you, or otherwise behave as if you are their Daddy just because you claim the title. You can ask that they call you by your name, or “Mister” or “Mr. ____” because these are just generic terms of respect. You can ask to be called “Sir”, but do not be surprised if they decline that term because of the connection that may have with some of their past “Sirs”. If you present it, present it as an option, not a demand. When you present littles with options, they are much more open than if you simply order or instruct them to call you one particular title. As you develop more of a relationship with them, they may agree to more formal titles and you might just begin the process of forming a bond with a little, but it is not something to rush.
Remember that submission, whether from a sub or a little, is a gift. It requires a trust that must be earned and a level of respect above and beyond the cursory respect reserved for strangers. You cannot expect it from them right away, and you must never demand it from anyone. If you are the right kind of person, and if you are patient and allow the relationship to develop, it might happen. When it does, recognize that it is a conditional gift, and should you lose sight of the significance of it and if you should stop being worthy of it, it can be revoked at any time.
Finally, when speaking, Daddies should not be overly prideful or boastful. You don’t need to correct everyone, nor should you constantly attempt to prove that you’re the smartest or most interesting man in the room. You are not there seeking approval from others or attempting to persuade anyone of your worthiness as an individual or as a Daddy. You simply are. You are a presence that exudes calm and confidence, so you have nothing to prove to anyone. Be yourself, be truthful, and look after those around you. I always liken myself to a sheepdog, guarding my flock. I can be playful and loving, but I can also go into attack mode should my flock be threatened. Adopt this mentality and it will serve you well.
Until next time!
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